LMFT
Jamie Lavender, LMFT
- Experience21 years
- LocationCalifornia
- Focus areasAddictions, Relationship, and Trauma and abuse
- Therapy approachesInternal Family Systems and Attachment-Based Therapy
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About Jamie
Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) practicing in California who blends an empathic, client-centered stance with structured clinical approaches to help people make meaningful changes.
Background and approach
With 21 years of clinical experience, he creates a supportive environment where clients can explore difficult feelings, challenging relationships, and patterns that keep them stuck. He works collaboratively to help people feel more grounded and clear about what they want to change.
Jamie has considerable experience addressing substance and impulse concerns using harm reduction principles, meeting clients where they are and helping them pursue moderation, abstinence, or other realistic goals that fit their lives.
He also works with a broad range of concerns such as grief, trauma and abuse, anxiety and depression, intimacy and sexual issues, family and attachment challenges, and stress related to caregiving, career, and life transitions. His approach draws on Internal Family Systems alongside attachment-focused and client-centered methods, tailoring interventions to each person’s needs and pace.
In sessions he emphasizes practical skills, compassionate exploration, and real-world strategies that aim for sustainable change. He offers multiple ways to connect, and welcomes conversations about what would make therapy most useful for each client.
Putting Attachment and Internal Parts Work into Online Sessions
Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps clients explore the different parts of themselves by naming and gently communicating with those parts, which can be useful for trauma, shame, addictive patterns, and self-critical thoughts. Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on patterns in close relationships and how early bonds shape current emotional needs and coping, making it helpful for intimacy, family issues, and security-related concerns. Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes empathy, active listening, and building a trusting therapeutic relationship so clients can discover their own solutions at their own pace.
Choosing the right approach is part of the therapeutic process, and Jamie works collaboratively with each person to determine which methods fit their needs, goals, and preferences. Together they may combine parts work, attachment-focused exploration, and person-centered support so that interventions feel useful and are adjusted over time.
Online therapy through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging offers flexibility for people juggling work, caregiving, or busy schedules. These formats make it easier to attend sessions from home or other convenient locations, maintain continuity during life changes, and use brief check-ins or messaging between longer sessions to reinforce progress and stay connected to therapeutic work.
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Experience
21+ years
Licensed
California
Languages
English