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Lilia Gonzalez-Joly, LMFT

  • Experience16 years
  • LocationCalifornia
  • Focus areasRelationship, Family, and Trauma and abuse
  • Therapy approachesInternal Family Systems and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • LanguagesEnglish and Spanish
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About Lilia

Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 16 years of clinical experience in California. She focuses on helping people navigate relationship and family difficulties, recover from trauma and abuse, and build greater self-esteem and career motivation.

Background and approach

Her work emphasizes creating an atmosphere where clients can express thoughts and emotions honestly and without judgment, allowing exploration of patterns that get in the way of more satisfying connections and a clearer sense of purpose.

Lilia draws on a range of evidence-informed approaches to tailor care to each person’s needs, offering practical strategies alongside deeper relational and emotional work. She encourages clients to take courageous steps toward change and provides support and empowerment throughout the process.

Sessions are offered in English and Spanish and aim to help clients develop communication skills, address guilt and shame, and foster self-love and forgiveness as part of long-term growth.

Therapeutic approaches and online flexibility



Internal Family Systems (IFS) views the mind as composed of distinct parts and helps clients relate to those parts with curiosity and compassion, which can be useful for addressing inner conflicts, trauma responses, and self-criticism. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying values and learning to accept difficult thoughts and feelings while committing to meaningful action, often helping with motivation, anxiety, and issues tied to life purpose. Attachment-Based Therapy explores how early relational patterns shape current relationships and emotional responses, supporting clients who want to improve connection and repair attachment wounds.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with each client to identify which methods align with their goals, needs, and preferences, combining strategies as appropriate and adjusting the plan over time to find the best fit.

Online therapy offers practical advantages for many people, including the ability to meet from home through video calls or phone sessions, and to stay engaged between sessions via live chat or text-based messaging. These options can increase scheduling flexibility and make it easier to maintain continuity of care while balancing work, family, and other commitments.

Frequently asked questions

What issues does she commonly address?
She works with concerns related to relationships, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, and career motivation, plus communication problems and questions of purpose.
How would you describe her therapeutic style?
The approach blends empathic, client-centered listening with practical interventions drawn from cognitive behavioral, attachment-based, and acceptance-oriented therapies.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She has 16 years of professional work experience providing therapy to clients in California.
What are her credentials and where is she licensed?
She is a LMFT licensed in California with license number CA LMFT 106107 and practices in the state of California.
Does she offer services in other languages or to international clients?
Sessions are available in English and Spanish. She is not currently accepting international clients.
What session formats are available?
Therapy is offered through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to provide scheduling flexibility.
How are fees and payment structured?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
To get started, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Relationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseSelf esteemCareer difficulties

Additional focus areas

Communication problemsForgivenessGuilt and shameLife purposeSelf-love

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)Gottman MethodJungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

16+ years

Licensed

California

Languages

English, Spanish